I like to make things simple.
When I decided to write about the head game, specifically insecurity and confidence, I forced myself to define both terms in a sentence or less. This is what I came up with. Insecurity: experiencing the lack or misplacement of identity Confidence: the understanding of identity Many people smarter than me fill entire books about the head game. I’m glad because whenever I need a pick-me-up, I can always find a hero who wrote a book that will make me better. Back to insecurity. That dirty word ruled my world for way too long. What I have quickly realized is the path of confidence is lonely. It is also hard. Like choosing confidence kicks my ass. It all rounds back to identity. Lack or misplacement of identity results in insecurity. How can you win your head game when you don’t even know who you are? Identity gives you the why. When I am losing my head game I misplace my identity in all sorts of things.
I used to think being insecure was hard. I was wrong. Like my friends at Whole30 would say, Cancer is hard. Living without an identity is easy. You just turn into whatever your environment demands you to be. Is it a devastation? Yes. Do you even have to try? Barely. The real work is choosing to understand your identity and CLAIM IT. Confidence can be lonely, but it is a road to wholeness. At least it has been for me. Personally, I find my identity in Christ. The pureness of that intimate understanding of who I am and who God is fuels everything I do. It helps me to lean-in on hard things and walk the lonely road. Jesus is the only way I know my why. My final thoughts are in the form of a love letter. Dear [say your name here], Let’s keep it simple. You deserve more. Not from anyone else, but from yourself. Live your life with confidence. Choose to do the work to claim your identity. Figure out your why and don’t spend time on anything that doesn’t surround that. You are not a chameleon. You are not a Labrador. You are a person with a soul. Don’t let the world teach you to sit and lay down. Misbehave. Get your head game straight so you can win every day. Love, Your Friend Who’s in it With You
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Valda
9/21/2017 05:48:54 am
This was really good. This is what God has been teaching me this past year. Thank you for adding to my life.
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