Dear friends, peace be with you! It's been a long season of hard days for me. Coming out of the brokenness, I can honestly say there is always hope in the darkest places. What I have found this year is a hard day offers two choices: 1. be a victim 2. be a victor Before I talk about my experiences with these choices, I want to define them.
"I didn't know better" "the people in my life are inadequate" "work is too much" "school is too hard" "I have no control" "I can't help that bad things happen to me" "this isn't fair" "I deserve more"
"I admit, this is not fun" "what can I control in this situation?" "what do I need to grieve?" "this is hard, what will it take to make it through?" "what do I need to heal?" "who can I go to?" "who can I invest in?" "how can I take responsibility?" "what is permanent? what can't I change?" "I am broken, I accept my part" "how can I be thankful?" "how can I make do with what I have?" "what is the truth?" I spent most of my life thinking like a victim. My hard days were always due to the harshness of the world, or the disappointing people in my life. I never had control of my rock-bottoms. I was angry with the unfair cards I had been dealt, because I deserved better. Until this year I never understood what I could do instead. There was an alternative to being a victim. I could be the victor of my life by accepting what I can't control, and changing what I can. I learned that a victor cries, a victor feels the pain of a hard day, and a victor uses their brokenness to become great. It's not who you are on the good days, but on the worst days of your life that define the person you are choosing to be. We don't always choose what happens to us, but we always have a say in who we are becoming. The hard days will never be easy. No matter what advice you get, or who your friends are, or if you love Jesus, there will be days where you will feel like you just can't anymore. What I have found is the beautiful metamorphosis that occurs when on those days you go to battle. Instead of playing the victim, play the victor. It hurts a little bit more, but you will feel free for the first time in your life. The truth is always harder to accept. But living a life that embraces your brokenness and makes do with what you've got, even if it's totally unfair, is a life that brings far more joy. Food for thought: Are you a victim, Or a victor?
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